How are you not exhausted from sobbing like that?

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I feel so exhausted when I sob for 5 minutes, how do you manage to do it for over an hour? Why are you so sad my love? What can I do for you my baby? No nap automatically equals bad night. It is very frustrating when you are super exhausted and have trouble falling asleep. I’ve experienced it and it’s not fun, I don’t expect a 3 year old taking it any better. Although I know why you are frustrated I still struggle to hear you sob for so long. Car ride to knock was him out, oh the things you do as a parent! I use to think parents who drive around for their kids to sleep were insane. After my first kid, I no longer think that way. You do what you got to do. I am no longer judgmental and a much better person. Everyone has a reason why they do what they do.  

The disability tax credit (DTC)?

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The DTC helps those with a disability or anyone caring for someone with a disability by reducing the amount of taxes they may owe. If the individual is under the age of 18 there is an additional supplement. Note, this is non-refundable tax credit meaning it can reduce the income tax they may have to pay but you won’t get anything back. Being eligible for the DTC can open the door to other federal, provincial, or territorial programs such as the registered disability savings plan, the working income tax benefit, and the child disability benefit. Who is eligible for the DTC? To be eligible, a person must have a severe and prolonged impairment in physical or mental functions. Don’t think about it in terms of your autism diagnosis but rather the effects that the impairment has on the person. The person must meet one of the following criteria: is blind is markedly restricted in the basics of daily living such as speaking, hearing, walking, eliminating (bowel or bladder), feeding, dressing, or mental functions necessary for everyday living is significantly restricted in two or more or the basic activities of daily living. Think of this as combinations of restrictions. If you have one severe and prolonged impairment or a combination of restrictions that add up to what the CRA calls a marked restriction. These significant restrictions have to exist together at least 90% of the time. needs life-sustaining therapy In addition, the person’s impairment must meet all of the following: is […]

Disability supports deduction (Line 215)

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If you have medical expenses associated with a disability, you may be able to claim them to reduce your taxes. Who is eligible? If you have an impairment in physical or mental functions, you may be able to deduct the expenses that you paid in the year so that you could: work go to school do research for which you received a grant Important to note that only the person with the disability can claim expenses for this deduction. The person must also be employed or carrying on a business, doing research or similar work that they are receiving a grant for, or attending a designated education institution or a secondary school where they are enrolled in an educational program. If you are not not eligible for the disability supports deduction then you or another supporting person may be able to claim the expenses as a medical expense. For more information on medical expenses, go to www.cra.gc.ca/medical. Which expenses can you claim? See the list of eligible expenses for the disability supports deduction and any certification from a medical practitioner that may be needed. List of eligible expenses Expense Prescription needed? Written certification from a medical practitioner needed? Attendant care expenses See details See details Bliss symbol boards Yes No Braille note-taker devices Yes No Braille printers, synthetic speech systems, large print-on-screen devices Yes No Deaf-blind intervening services No No Devices or software Yes No Electronic speech synthesizers Yes No Job coaching servicesFootnote1 No Yes Note-taking services No Yes Optical scanners Yes No Page turner devices Yes No […]

Canada caregiver credit

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The information is mainly for people who care for a person with a disability. The CRA administers a number of tax deductions and credits to help persons with disabilities or their families. The Canada caregiver credit (CCC) is a non-refundable tax credit that may be available to you. The CCC combines three previous credits: the caregiver credit, the family caregiver credit, and the credit for infirm dependants age 18 or older. If you previously claimed any or all of these credits and your situation remains the same as in 2016, then your 2017 CCC claim will stay about the same as in 2016. In some cases, your claim may increase. The CCC is a non-refundable credit, it is used to reduce tax owing, but any excess is not refunded. Who can you claim this credit for? You may be able to claim the CCC if you support your spouse or common-law partner with a physical or mental impairment. You may also be able to claim the CCC for one or more of the following individuals if they depend on you for support because of a physical or mental impairment: your or your spouse’s or common-law partner’s child or grandchild your or your spouse’s or common-law partner’s parent, grandparent, brother, sister, uncle, aunt, niece, or nephew (if resident in Canada at any time in the year) An individual is considered to depend on you for support if they rely on you to regularly and consistently provide them with some or all of […]

Is sharing really caring?

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JB been doing really well taking turns with us meaning me and hubby only. The issue is he got a younger baby sister and older big brother that likes to play with toys as well. I know we need to work on the social skills of taking turns and sharing and I’ve been trying that at home however I’m in a dilemma because this causes him to go into a meltdown. Most of the time we are able to distract the older child with something else and they all seem happy but with the baby sister she clearly has little reasoning skill and don’t understand sharing. You will see JB grab all his toys and run to corner to play alone rather than have his sister pull his hair and steal his toys. Can’t say I blame him, but he can be mean sometimes and push his sister or grab the toy back more rough than I like. So my question is: Is sharing really caring? I’m leaning towards no. If he has to share with her, he gets very angry and likely won’t like her as much. Think I’m going to try the approach of not making him share his toys with her so he can like her a bit more. What are your thoughts? On a side note, he didn’t want to nap today so hoping he will sleep early to catch up on some snoozing time.

We think he requested to use washroom today

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If you haven’t been reading up on our potty training posts, we started training and he is doing amazing. The only accidents are number twos. He hasn’t done his number two business for 3 days and usually he is a daily goer and pretty predicable. Yes yes, we keep track of their (our kid’s) daily washroom routines, it’s just a parent thing. You know some start a conversation about weather but we discuss our children’s poo. Back on topic, he pointed down there and the hubby took it as a request to pee but when he sat down, three days worth of poo came out. I was so so so excited I wanted to run down and hug him but unfortunately baby sister needed me. I’m going to call that a request to use washroom. Until tomorrow and hopefully he will tell us he needs to use the washroom. I wanted to give him the world for being so smart. The little things in life that excites me lol. I truly love him to the moon and back and back and back. My little baby is growing up and I’m the proudest mommy in the world. Last week was bad with constant crying, waking up at 3 am and 5 am and downright frustration and anger. Today was the same as he seemed so upset. Had to resort to taking him on walk and park to calm him. He was still angry after a shower but he seem okay after […]

Sleeping Issues: Perspectives

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The husband had to wake up at 5am this morning because JB was screaming bloody murder at 5am. Thankful the big one slept through that and the little sister didn’t take forever to go back to sleep as usual. All in all the husband was the real loser with only 4 hours of sleep. Why did I titled this as perspectives? The husband’s sister came over today and when we told her about it she was shocked and said oh my but my husband replied it’s better than waking up at 3am. We all laughed but it is so true. As sad as 5am is, it is much better than 3am and since we had a 3 am just a few days ago, 5am is much much better. Everything in life is about perspectives. I have learned that our bad night/day could be someone’s very good day/night. Comparing isn’t the key but in reality it makes me feel that better in a sense that our situation is manageable and we can work through it. Hope is a very powerful thing. I can only hope tonight is a better night. Sleep deprivation is real and I must give credit to the husband for still being so patient and loving. It melts my heart when he holds JB up close and cradle his head telling our son how precious and how much he loves him. As much as sleep deprivation is real the love a father has for his son is truly […]

Bad night or would you call it super early morning

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JB woke up at 3am and started crying bloody hell. I guess he couldn’t fall back asleep and for was ready to start the day. Start the day he did with the husband but unfortunately he woke up baby sister and she  was ready to start the day too. Bad sleep must be contagious because she  woke up on the hour and while clearly still sleepy she was ready to go play. While I got more sleep than the husband it was restless sleep where I’m not fully sleeping. Why must these kids try to kill their mom and dad by waking so early? When JB is angry he stays angry for a while and sound proof walls can’t contain his noise or that the contractor lied and either put the crappiest sound proof. It’s been a while since his last episode, looking back I’m not sure how we survived 1-4 bad nights a week or very week. The worse was when he has the bad nights back to back where we have 8 bad nights in a roll. Guess I’ll gladly take the occasional bad nights. Still love him to the moon and back.    

You never get use to your child crying at night

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Some stuff gets easier as the days go by and you learn how to deal with it but the truth is you will never get use to your child crying at night. It deeply saddens me the number of nights per week this child of mine cries for. I wish very much I can take away whatever frustration you are experiencing as a good night sleep is so crucial for your little growing body. You just need a good sleep to have a chance to have a good day. JB been mastering peeing but the next step is to work on communicating to us when he needs to go. Poo on the other hand, not there yet. I’m still super excited to see him successfully pee in the potty. I’m so proud of him. Go to sleep soon my love. Tomorrow is a new day to play and learn.